It's Tx Mom.. 2nd thread.. trying to hold on...

[TxMomw/2girls]

Great advice..... I know I need to make him take the girls... he doesn't want to b/c of our 6 month old and I don't want him to b/c the hardest part with all of this, separation or D, is the fact that he is taking my babies away from me... I don't want a whole weekend to myself unless I'm out of town. I work, travel for my job and I'm away from my kids enough but I know reality is if we do get D I'm going to have to get use to it... SUCKS!!!!!! ... my H wouldn't bring OW around if he was at our house but I can't say what he'd do when he is at his apt...

Funny LE - I hadn't thought of all of them crammed into a 1 bedroom... pretty funny thought !!!... Of course I will die the first time he brings OW around.. I don't want a 25yr touching my babies...

OH and by the way... my H will probably never stay at his apt by himself... he left our home and has been living with OW for last 5 weeks and just now is getting around to getting his apt... he'll only be there when he has the kids... but it does make him have to buy diapers, formula, wipes, food, dishes etc... so the kids can be comfortable. And as long as I let him stay here he doesn't have to start living like a separated person..

I also get concerned with my almost 4yr old sleeping in dad's bed every other weekend, and my baby in a pack in play all in one room... I don't need my 4 yr old to start expecting that she'll sleep with us all the time... or "at dads house he lets me" and it's all fun.. at the beginning it will be fine but not forever. He signed a 6 month lease and I guess he'll get a two bedroom at some point.

So to everyone's point I will start with one night and full day for a month or so and he'll watch at his place... once I get comfortable with this we'll move to every other weekend....

Last night was great in the neighborhood but I broke down when he left.... I thought I had it all together this week and I know he had a good time but he also gets to cake eat... right now I don't know if I can pull this off for Thanksgiving... but to LE point I'll wait and decide the week prior. He is truely living two lives b/c his OW is 25 so she has no kids, lives in small apt, and my H doens't have to think about us or be accountable... if she had kids I think it would be so different for us he'd have to be in family mode all the time b/c his OW would be... it is what it is but makes it easier to cake eat... boy what a great life.. he gets his kids for Halloween and then goes to his lovers to a young single Halloween house party afterwards... who wouldn't love that... what a dream!!!

but I wouldn't trade waking up with my girls any day of the week..

any other takes on this subject appreciated... thanks everyone.