SMIlls, you need to read the parts of DR and DB that talk about "changing anything." If you look back at your relationship, for example, you said that your husband took care of you, that he cleaned and cooked. Why not surprise him and start taking care of him instead? A great 180 would be not to demonstrate desperation. Why not cook more often, keep the house nice, ask him how his day was, ask him to go out to do things he likes to do (if he says no and keeps acting cold, don't lose your cool)? It seems to me that this guy loved you very much and for a long time loved you more than you loved him. It seems like he is just plain tired.
