Letting go....one day at a time!

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I know it's hard. If I get too intense, it is out of the best of intentions.

You know, that control issue, it is a struggle. I think it has taken me about 6 mos. to mostly let go of my W. My Father in Law told me early on that I would just have to basically do the best I could and take care of myself.

Of course, this advice was really hard to hear at the time, and it was given with the presumption that things were already over, before I had even begun to DB. so it wasn't appreciated by me.

But as a DB strategy, it is really important.

I like to think of letting go as releasing the situation and the outcome into God's hands. If I have done all the things I know to do (apologise, validate, etc) and there is nothing left, it is a wonderful thing to let go and let God.

His shoulders are bigger than mine, and only He can really change my spouse. I just have to kind of get out of the way.