RTL, you would be superhuman not to feel sad and lonely so soon after the divorce. Go through the emotions but at the same time try to keep positive and think of this as a new beginning. Take it slowly. Nobody says you should be partying right now (not even me), after all the effort you put. Talking to her as if the previous chapter of your life together ended with no problem, is hard. You need time to adjust. Your head is there, your heart not yet. Love K
I agree I should have addressed her profanity and I will in the future. I'm not sure I'll be wanting to hang up on her as long as she's not complaining and blaming me. However, I do need to work on telling her I'm busy and need to go in order to not allow her to use me whenever it feels convenient for her to do so.
Thank you for your support. I'm sure everyone can relate to the feelings of lonliness and at times the entire thing overwhelms me.
I am trying to be civil and as pleasant as possible when we talk, but it is still new and I do need to give it time. Right now, time is not my friend but my enemy. I need time to run faster so I can move away from this stage of my adjustment.
My heart will catch up to my head soon, but I need to keep busy and active. The more I do, the less I stop and think...and not thinking here is a good thing.
Well, D is fast asleep after a night of Trick-or-Treating. She was Supergirl and we even had the dog dressed up as Superdog. Very, very cute.
As for me, D picked out an Elvis costume, so I kicked that around the neighborhood. I took some pictures, so I'll try and get them up this weekend for the FB crowd.
D and I have had a blast today from start to finish, so I'm glad I was able to spend Halloween w/ her this year. We'll continue enjoying things tomorrow and Sunday too.
XW called me as I was on my way to pick up D from school and told me about the change over in insurance. I also let her know what my HR had told me and she's giving me a copy of the fax she sent in removing me from her account.
While I had her on the phone, I told her about the sliding market in our neighborhood and what figure we needed to look at to walk away from the house w/out owing anything to anyone. She immediately blamed me for "running up the debt" which, in her words, has now left us "f#@ked!" I calmly reminded her where the money was spent and what on (ALL COMMUNITY PROPERTY AND HOUSE UPGRADES) and told her the worst isn't here yet, but we need to brace ourselves for it coming.
She left the conversation angry and that is to be expected. I really don't care, to be truthful. I just needed her to know the reality of the situation b/c if I do happen to get an offer I don't want her to freak out about the price being well below her "fantasy value" of our home and thus delay and possibly ruin the sale.
So, I feel good about that and while I'd love to make some money here, I'm now just hoping to get out w/a couple of bucks and not being upsidedown on this place.
Well, I'm off to turn in, so I'll talk w/ all of you later.
Trying to do a little catch up on what you have going on. Make it a fun w/e. Glad to hear it was a fun time for you and Grace. What a special gift you have in her.
I've always admired your name, Refuse to Lose. Your courage, caring and compassion always shine through. What a great image to have.. to refuse to lose, to embrace all that life has to offer for yourself, your daughter, what brings health, balance and happiness.
Currently when I feel myself about to blow a gasket when talking to spouse I hang up. I'm working on adding a breathless "Gotta go!" before the click. For some reason that makes everything hunky dory.
Hey Rob, Glad to hear you had a great Halloween with Grace.
Gosh, why cant your ex let it go? Has she no compassion for yuo at all and whats all this about money? And why is it all YOUR fault!?? You were M, even if she paid no attention to your finances, that was her choice. She never takes responsibility.
Glad you are doing ok, you were a bit down earlier in the week (on the New Moon! 29th) are you feeling more settled now?
Thanks for sticking with me too, its been a long year hey? Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
PS: I'm listening to The Smiths and it always makes me think of you nowadays ! (and my ex of course, being his favourite band!).
I'm so sorry for the the last year of your life Rob, but I feel certain you will look back and be glad and that there is some amazing, loving, kind woman out there for you, that will rock your world one day.
Your courage, caring and compassion always shine through. ...You are a very special man.
Originally Posted By: AliSuddenly
I'm so sorry for the the last year of your life Rob, but I feel certain you will look back and be glad and that there is some amazing, loving, kind woman out there for you, that will rock your world one day.
