You dont know that you wont get an answer. You dont have to just do it for yourself..yes you make the decision in your heart to move on, but theres no reason why you cant and shouldnt expect to have ONE honest conversaton with the man you married! C'mon girl, I think you deserve that!
My C said.. people dont like endings, they find it hard to take responsibility for it or saying the words. So.. if you do the brave thing and ask for, or speak a little bit of truth to him, take that step toward him, he may well take a little step toward you and answer honestly. You could always tell him the door is open, but you respect his decision to go do this now? That is the beyond the beyond the LRT?
The other option is to do nothing.. stop texting/being nice and get on with your own life.. like MichelleLT (have you read her posts?). She began dating, her H was no longer in touch, the D was proceeding, she didnt even know where he lived.. then out of the blue, he emailed her saying he realised she was the best thing that ever happened to him, and they are now talking. So yes, it can happen. He must have once loved you very much to walk down the aisle with your Julia, but maybe he has changed?
You are ace though, this isnt your fault and none of us deserve it. You think things will stay the same, especially when you are happy and content..but seems alot of us had the rug pulled out from under us. You are getting on with things though, jobs, holidays, hobbies..so you should be proud of yourself.
Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
