I have to be honest with you.. i wasnt seeing any baby steps in yuor sitch, he's barely in touch for some months now (?) and it did look like he had another gf, which would explain his ability to not give you much or hardly see you.
If "that girl" was the one you considered the ow and he has said on FB that they are moving in together (was that it?) then yes, it sounds like he has been dating her and now they are going to rent a place.. I dont think it would be healthy for you to assume its just as friends. I also think its incredibly cowardly and unfair of him to not TELL YOU that he has a gf and has decided to move in with her. Just like my ex not telling me. Its not great. I'm not angry either, but I also woke up thinking, I'm not sure I could forgive him/trust him.
You've had so little to keep you going, it seems at this stage, all you can do is like you say, move forwards with your life and try and make a success of it without this man. I'm so sorry that you had to find out from FB (that sucks) and of course noone would tell you not to look! You have to know. If he isnt going to tell you, what choice do you have? I went for a drink with my ex's BMF gf and gave her a grilling George Foreman would have been proud of. Knowledge is power, and anyway, he's already been gone a year and you guys are barely in touch.
I'm sorry for this long and probably unhelpful post, but whats happeend to you and me and Lisa isnt fair, its hard to deal with, its hurtful and its life altering. I'm not the same person I was and I do have a lot to be grateful for in how much I;ve had to take a long hard look at myself and grow up and change.
Why dont you stop DBing and just ask to speak to him/see him and ask him how he is? Ask him if theres anything he wants to tell you? What do you have to lose at this point and maybe it would be cathartic and set you free?
Thinking of you and I'm glad you dont feel devastated and maybe a little bit ready to start living again, one step at a time.
Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
