it's been a week since the email exchange. He hasn't replied yet to my last email. I would like to call him "for advice", but I have been procrastinating because I don't want to call him when I'm feeling crazed, and also, I am not exactly sure what to ask.
There are a couple questions I have been pondering that I would like to know what his advice would be: -what cello I should play my recital on -what to do about the imminent and unmeetable deadline for the school I was planning to apply to -how to make things better in my chamber group -what exactly I'm playing on my recital
honestly... I think I figured out the answers to the first and third questions myself... I would be more pretending to need advice than anything else. the question about applying to school is tied up to a million other questions about what should be my next move in the larger scheme of my life. I am afraid if I ask him that kind of question it will be too much or something. the fourth question is a little bit "safer", it's more factual, not about any life decisions.
I am also starting to wonder about trying to see him in NYC in december, which is starting to feel like it's just around the corner, but I imagine I should wait for him to bring it up, or at least, wait for another conversation/email contact.
I don't know T.. I recall him discussing some rather personal stuff with you recently so I don't think number 3 is really out of the question... besides, his input on that is also kind of interesting from a db perspective. But I do think number 4 is also a good idea to speak with him about too.
What's taking you to NYC in December? Or is it a BF specific trip? If there are set dates in December that you are going for something and the plan is in place I don't think it's a bad idea to mention that you're doing such and such in NY at that time. I think I would see his response and if he mentions getting together or what his plans are.. and if nothing is said from his end.. then the next time you two communicate (a little closer to December) mention meeting up.
Ok, I called and left a message just now! Basically like, "hey, it's t, I was wondering if I could get your advice about some stuff about my recital jury next week. I'm kind of confused about some things and it would be great to get your opinion. I also just wanted to say hi and see how you're doing. I hope you're doing awesome! Ok, give me a call when it's a good time for you, it would be great to chat. bye!" Now we... see what happens!!
((WHERE)) thanks so much for your observations. I am going to spend the holidays with my family in virginia, and it is easy to take the bus to NYC to visit my other friends who are there, and also "happen" to be in the town where B lives. So it is sort of a combination. I really like your plan of bringing it up and seeing whether he says anything. I thought of a clever way to mention it... I could just tell him that I"m thinking of meeting with some different NYC cello teachers "when I am in town in December" so he will know that I will be there.
Well, he called me this afternoon while I was practicing! YAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!! It was a little awkward on both of our ends, and I asked him if i could call him back later (I really did need to practice), so I will call him back later, but I think I did an awesome job of being extremely warm on the phone.
It's especially nice because today is the one year anniversary of the final bomb. Now we are experiencing good vibes instead!!
I really don't know if there's an OW or not, he was very vague about what he needed to do later today ("I have to go somewhere at 7") so i don't know if he's covering up a date or just being mysterious or not wanting to tell me every single thing he does. who knows. i don't know!! ((ALI))
I'm so sorry I missed your posts before. Great news that B called back and I can't wait to hear how the conversation goes later. It's fantastic news tht things are feeling positive now, as opposed to how they were last year- I think you're turning a corner.
I quite like the idea of trying to see him in NYC over Christmas. Will you mention it when you speak to him later?
I hope I'm not being pushy, but you could possible give us/me a quick overview of your sitch from the start. Maybe a few paragraphs or something? You story intrigues me, but I'm lost about the big picture and don't have time to go all the way back. If not, I understand.
I'm just catching up! I just wanted to say how marvellously I think you have done. Wow! I just love that you have such long conversations and that he feels he can really *speak* to you - basically that you hear him. I don't know if that makes any sense but I just think considering that you guys split it is rare to be able to open such a connection again.
I hope school is going well, how is the recital planning going?
