I think that sentiment "they never grow up" is a comfortable one, and is a good justification for giving up and moving on. and it might even be a valid justification. I heard the same from lots of people. My cousin: "Once a cheater, always a cheater."
I don't know if I believe that. I think it's deeper than that. I think good people do stuff that isn't nice, because they are hurting or scared or broken. And I think people can heal and change and improve.
I'm not judging anyone. I won't sit here and tell people that my way is the only right way to be. I just think a generalization like "they never really grow up" isn't fair to the specific person it is aimed at.
Lemme tell you something - my brother was married and all during the marriage I thought - man, he needs to grow up. Well he's divorced now. And guess what? ... too late to save the marriage, but he grew up. he's a different man now. Isn't that something?
People change and grow. always. Inevitably. The question is, will they change in a good way, fast enough for ya. Are you willing to wait to find out?
