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What were you both doing at the time? Pre-MLC the car drives worked because althou we were mad at each other for the conflict & both of us resented the car drives - him for being taken for the ride & me for feeling forced to make the drive - we did evetnually get to the point where the discussion was opened up & we began to work on resolving the problems that needed to be addressed by establishing what the true problem was & then how to deal with it in some sort of fashion




I'm curious as to whether part of this working might be because you changed the "where".

If you find yourself having the same arguments, at the same time, in the same place, and getting the same results, it could be that changing any one or more of those things could help you to get different results.

Give this some thought, and see if you can find some more times and/or places when your conflicts have gone better.

Take into account, also, when you know the absolute WORST times and places are, to give you some "more of what doesn't work" clues, so you can avoid them!


JJ

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