I'm sorry that I'm not active lately on the Piecing forum. As connection improves, more time is devoted to the R, and less time is available for helping out others on the board.
No need to be sorry CL!
I broke my toe a few weeks ago too...ouch!!! I've done it before, a few years ago, it was sore for several months. Don't know about your W, but for me, I feel the need to let my H know it hurts on occasion, but I don't expect him to drip sympathy or tip-toe (heh heh) around me. It is what it is. Nothing he can do about it beyond try not to step on it, you know?
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She was ranting about a PB & J sandwich that wasn't supposed to have the J. During the rant, she mentioned that she won't tolerate being treated poorly by me, and won't tolerate low quality sex. She says that the ball is in my court.
Okay, ranting about a PB & J sandwich is silly...but that it morphed into a rant about sex is telling. I know I'm no expert on your R, but I do sense in you an almost compulsive hesitancy to push forward regarding intimacy (which, by the way, is completely understandable, my friend). So here it is from a woman who has experienced prolonged rejection (though circumstances were a bit different): the lack of intimacy in your R wears on your W, makes her more on edge, more anxious. She is right in the comment that the ball is in your court. It's the leap of faith CL. She is crying out for romantic attention. Will you keep stepping forward?
In my experience, the lack of intimacy literally made my skin crawl at times. Once intimacy (physical, not necessarily emotional) returned, I felt much more calm and collected and better able to deal with the challenges I faced. I can't say that's what your W feels, but her comment suggests to me that she NEEDS you to step forward and take care of business.
