Okay...so I'm not sure where I read about the sharing the apt. idea earlier today. But, that's what I wanted to comment on earlier. I had a therapist last year who said that he and his XW tried that arrangement after their D and that it was a disaster. So, I don't recommend that at all. I say let him have his space. He can take the girls there...they'll be fine...if he's a good dad, they'll be fine. I don't think you want to know how he lives, and being at his apt. when he's not there is not a good idea. Staying with friends while he's a the house is also going to get old.
My boys (my youngest is 3 and 1/2) do fine at Dad's place...that's what they call it (this is home, that's Dad's place). It was a little inconvenient at first for H, but he worked it out. He got a 2nd tv and a couch after their 2nd weekend there. Now he has a few toys over there and a few articles of clothing.
Your H has to see what it's going to be like. You little one won't be concerned about where she is, and your older one might see it as an adventure. I agree that 1 night at a time is a good place to start until the girls are comfortable, but after a little while, I'd say, give him the whole weekend. That's the only good thing about my separation...I have every other weekend completely free to do what I want to do!
But, before you take any advice...pray, pray, pray!!! You can't go wrong if you can be still and listen to God!
Love to you! Amy
Me 39 H 36 S 7 S 4 T 15 M 12 H out 8/1/08 OW confirmed 8/6/08 D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!
