Bittersweet day. I am in St. Louis where my SIL earned his PHD today. I am with his family and having a wonderful warm and happy day. While TJ is back in our hometown finalizing our divorce today..
I am strangely OK. It is a business deal, and it is in God's hands anyways. TJ seemed determined to get this divorce, so I am accepting the divorce, but I will always be his wife in my heart. I know this is a temporary situation, but I do not like being divorced. there is much more, but I want to tell all my friends who are worries about me, that I forgot my cell phone on the seat of my car back home. So don't call me. My lawyer can't call me either. I guess God arranged that.
I am ok. Really really. I have prepared for this and had a dress rehearsal 1 year ago.
Love to all, Holly. Can't find that darn pole in this hotel room.
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
Sweetie, when you get home and feel up to it, call me. I know exactly how you feel. It will be fine, you will be fine.
I am so sorry it came to this.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
Holly--My heart goes out to you as you have dealt with this in a very dignified manner and yes, God was and is right there next to you seeing you thru this.
And God is and will continue to work on TJ, too.
I am really glad to know you are with people who care and love you this weekend.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Holly, I'm very sorry to come here today and see your posting. You work extremely hard to save your marriage, but ultimately, God took it from your hands and is now guiding the process. There is a reason for what he's done and you may not understand or know for a while what that reason was/is.
Your "dress rehearsal" a year ago was preparing you for this. Yes, you will always feel like your are still TJ's wife and I do hope that he will turn himself around now that he's got the freedom he so desperately craved. You've been his strongest supporter and yet, it wasn't enough to help him see the light.
Holly, you are okay and you will continue to be okay. When you are feeling down, do not hesitate to lean on your friends for support. Everyone will be there to help you through this. Allow yourself time to grieve, cry and be sad. You do not have to be a happy person all of the time and no one should expect it. Take things slowly to allow yourself time to heal.
BTW, congratulations to your SIL.
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
