"In healthy marriages, spouses have the same definition of what it means to be loving my answer would be false - but i'm thinking that hubby maybe thinking yes
From your point of view, why is this illusion wrong? how a person is rased will help determine whether they are loving outwardly - huggy people come from huggy families - while if there aren't hugs given but praises verbally given then a person is likely to be more needing to hear praises than giving of gifts to show love
How would YOU define "loving"? I feel loved in many ways, but I do think that I am 1st a feeling person & then hearing second - I'm still a bit confused reading the 5 love languages as to exactly what hubby's language is - my perspective of loving is being there for your spouse thru thick & thin, helping where ever & when ever possible, being willing to compromise, being willing to work things out, doing things together,
What would this mean to you? I feel loved when hubby shows "ownership" of me introducing me proudly to his bosses & friends, I feel loved when hubby gives me huggies, pats on the rump when he's on his way out the door hubby gave us pet names when we got married, & althou some think it's terrible we've always liked them - he calls the kids "the boy" & "the girl" & me "woman" - using the tone of voice that Homer Simpson has as we use to watch it together & son did seem to be into some sort of mischeif all the time hubby use to bring home little gifts, icecream, little trinkets when he ordered stuff online & take us out to the video store to pick up a bunch of movies as a family
What things has your partner done in the past that made you really feel loved?
How do you think your partner would define "loving"? In Dec 2002 he told me that he doesn't feel love for me - I asked him what does he think love is? & he gave the definiation that is the head over heels like when we 1st met & didn't want to be apart - apparently he's never had explained to him that the romantic passion type of thing is suppose to end from what he said he's looking for that kind of feeling again
These next 3 questions I'll have to come & answer later I've got to go bring daughtr to work & figure out what my mother in laws trying to figure out & why from the questions that she was asking me a few moments ago
What would it mean to them?
What things have you done in the past that you think made them feel really loved?
Things that have gotten positive responses from them?
