He once said he thought it helped when i was wailing and sorry. So I am torn.
I've been there and have seen my W do that. It felt good to see her in that way because I wanted her to hurt like I had hurt. In the end though, it didn't help save my M or change my feelings about her. We didn't do the REAL WORK to get past it. I never forgave her. I said that I did; but I never really did. I just became controlling and demanded to know what she was doing, who she was talking to and that was too much for me and her.
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He did say that he thought that maybe this was something he had to work through. If i thought at the end there was me . i would support him 110 %
This where you have to trust what he says; validate his feelings because it's true. Act "as if" you will have him in the end and then support him 110%. This is what you have to do if you want him back. Unfortunately, he is in control and you will have to let him lead.
I know your frightened; but he's not there at the moment and you are still breathing. Keep your chin up. You need to get out of your head and detach from the emotions. Your mental health depends on it. Max, I hope you find a counselor soon.
((((max))))
We're all here for you..remember that...even half a world away.
