Tonight we got together at a friends house before going around our block with the neighbors and kids for Halloween. We were invited to eat a little soup and salad and other parents were there that we know from our street.

W was not aloof, but seemed to be enjoying the time.

After about an hour we took pics of the kids, and headed out to trick or treat as a group.

W had been invited to a halloween party with friends from work and went into a little detail about who would be at the party. It seemed she was making sure that I didn't assume she was going out on a date.

I had plans to take D to meet her two best friends to trick or treat in a nearby neigborhood.

As she got ready to go, she lingered by her car, and in her silent language, I knew she wanted to be hugged.

Without asking, I came and embraced her, kissed her on the forehead, and after a moment, let her go.

It was perhaps the warmest, most genuine moment we have had in almost a year.

I have been going dark for about three weeks now. I only respond when she asks me to. There has been no pursueing, but I have helped her financially when she needed and when I was able.
I have dropped the rope, acknowleged that I don't think we can work this out.

Now she seems to be softening. I want to believe that something is happening.

It's hard to know what to believe right now, but I am encouraged after the the last two times we have been together.


Last edited by native; 11/01/08 03:17 AM.
Me 47, W 32,D 6,
Met 11 yrs. ago, M 7
Bomb 4/08/08, Sep. 8/10/08, Div. 8/10/09