I wish you the best. My wife recently told me she was "done" and is now considered to be a WAW. We're still in the same house and sleeping in the same bed and she still wears her ring. She is not gone like your wife is but I can tell you that I am feeling a lot of pain like you are and I feel the struggle that you're going through. Since we're still together and I'm feeling like she is really done and just waiting to leave when the market improves, it is so very hard to see her. I see her every morning and every night and it just rips my heart out to know that I contributed to the problem.
I just want you to know that I'm thinking about you and I hope that you're able to find the strength to do the right things and hold back the wrong things. We both know what those are but I completely understand the whole "chase" thing. I posted a thread on what is chasing? How do I know what I can and can't do that would be considered chasing? I feel like if I back off too much she'll think I've given up. I feel like I want to do just a little something for her every now and again to let her know that my heart is still with her. I'm sure you feel the same.
I stopped chasing my wife on Monday and it's only Friday now. What an incredibly difficult thing to do! I almost thing it would be easier on my heart if I didn't have to see her every day but I know in my brain that if that was the case, it wouldn't be good either.
Either way my thoughts are with you and I wish you the best. We are both in this together because we both want our wives back. I'll be in touch.
