It was 4 years ago that my A was discovered , which i lied about for the next 3, coming clean in April / May this year.
My mum just met H again for the first time in 8 months today. She said there was something different about him. Could not put her finger on it but said it he looked like he was coming out of a prolonged illness. He has lost lots of weight and started smoking again.
As for friends knowing - No and H said he hopes it stays that way although he is yet to confront OM and OMW with the truth of the A. (OMW does not know full extent)this may mean that the story goes public as OMW reacts.
H knows that OM could not hold a candle to his greatness and I have promised him regardless of what happens to us I, I would not take up with OM. I would not do even for my childrens sake.
H is a stickler for appearances and for doing the right thing. This is what drives him i believe at the moment. Bit of pride, bit of his black and white world. He has little tolerance for those who wrong him and I am afraid I am in that group now.
I know what you are saying about harping on to h about feelings but up until today i have not for weeks and in that time we really have moved further apart. He once said he thought it helped when i was wailing and sorry. So I am torn.
H also says he knows that I would never do it again. He recognised my sincerity in this. Still he wont come back.
He did say that he thought that maybe this was something he had to work through. If i thought at the end there was me . i would support him 110 %
