i have read DR.. but i was intent on it solving my probs i dont think i really comprehended what i needed to do.. chapter one, a couple weeks later is finally seeking in. maybe it was inital shock of wife just leaving out of nowhere i had to accept.. i am ready to think and lose the old habits.. set new goals and have patience for them to come to be.. my faith is low, however, and since she left it shows how determined she is to move on.. i know she is confused, but to say she isnt in love with me anymore, but still cares and loves me in general really sinks deep.
how do u become "the one" for someone again when they feel it isnt meant to be.. ?
i know what i need to do.. set them goals, make them changes, etc.. but wow is it discouraging to get feedback like that.
i have difficulty knowing how to take action... i know the changes i may need to do such as, be more attentive to her needs (which unfortunately now is to be left alone), do away with negatives about the R, do away with the pursuing, be a friend who listens, can advise, and be supportive...
prob is i have seen her once this past week and that was monday, it went horrible... havent seen her since and talked for seconds at a time on two occasions.
its frustrating.. and i miss her madly..
still confused but having times with the feet on the ground and head out of the clouds..
