Yes, he is! But I didn't even try to negotiate with him or anything. I have a meeting for that theatre tour thing I'm doing (the others must not have kids!) and it's 7 to 9 or 10 so I'll be busy. And I told H that I get Halloween next year. He said he wants Thanksgiving and I can have Christmas, but I told him that he could have Christmas Eve, b/c I won't want to miss the whole Christmas with the kids next year!!! So I assume you have your kids? If so, lucky you!!! That's the worst part of divorce for me is splitting up the holidays!!! D8 is going as a ladybug and S14 was going to pass out the candy at the house, b/c the rest of us will be gone!
Oh, yeah busy but mostly nice today. D8 and I went to visit the daycare house today. The lady is like in her 20s and has a daughter D8 can play with. She's got a really nice house with a great backyard and swing set. She's a nursing student so she can't watch her all the time but about half the time, which is good because that would have been almost my entire paycheck!!!
Then dropped some stuff off at the L's and she wanted to talk with me for half hour or so. Did homeschooling with the kids. Just need to do chores and get D8 ready for Halloween and then my meeting. I'm hoping to fit in some fun this weekend though! Karen
Well, I had fun tonight. I was a bit bummed about missing Halloween with D8 since of course I've never missed it before. But I wound up making it fun anyway. I put some fun music on and dressed D8 in her costume so that was a lot of fun! And then, I put on my tightest skin-tight t-shirt, makeup, did the hair, and dropped the pants when H came over. (My jeans I was going to wear were still in the dryer.) I'm horrible I know!!!
Then I was hoping H would take D8 out to trick or treat and let S14 give out candy at the house since I would be gone, and he tells me, no we're going to go trick or treating in my town and if S14 wants to give out candy he can do that at my house. Kind of in a rude tone to me. But it was funny b/c about 5 minutes later he came back and said well D8 wants to trick-or-treat in our town instead of his (yeah, this is her home!), and so S14 could give out the candy too. I said gbye to H and D8 as they left and told them to have fun. I'm not a very observant person, but H looked tired, older, and just gray tonight which I really don't remember having seen his face look gray like that. Maybe he's sick or something, but doesn't look like the happy camper I would have expected to see. Part of me is a little worried about him which I probably shouldn't, and part of me was a tiny bit happy about him looking like that which I also probably shouldn't.
So went to the meeting and this is our discussion about the tour. (OK, let's do it just like last time). Then we goofed around for 2 hours, one of the guys had some kind of pellet guns and we were chatting. They are all non-stop talkers, I am almost but I do sometimes take a breath, and I feel like a quiet person when I get with my theatre friends!!! I was hoping to just do the ghost thing, but they want me to give half the tour too. But hopefully it'll be fun and it's just 18 or over so maybe I'll have to spice up my tour a bit.
Oh, I found out the Art Center where we work not only has opening nights and a gala in January, but apparently they have Single Nights there too!!! I guess I will have to go there anyway for the job, yeah just for the job you know! Karen
I have always believed in good things happening when you least expect them to. Looks like your job might have some side benefits - should you choose to take advantage of ... I mean should you need them.
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
Well, I know you're supposed to have no expectations with the WAS, but dern it's hard to do that. I asked H about 2 days ago to watch the kids until I got home tonight from the tour or as late as he could (he picked up the kids last night and had them today). He said he could probably watch them until around 9, so they would have just been alone a half hour or so which would be fine.
H dropped them off at 5:30 tonight and left. I told D8 that I'd be gone 3 hours tonight and she wanted to call H and ask him to watch her. I let her call (twice) and he didn't pick up either time. I guess OW didn't want to wait until 9 to go out, and she of course is more important than our kids!!! Karen
Document it. Believe me if anyone is furious with ex's it is me but I took yenko's advice to heart...focus on the solution and not on the problem. Granted I only got about 4 hours sleep last night so maybe I am just a little giddy but I have a short term plan in place. Could your kids go with you and help hand out fliers or something?
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Document it.... Could your kids go with you and help hand out fliers or something?
kat
I will. That's another thing that drives me crazy is he's fighting for primary custody of the kids and he obviously would be horrible at that! It's an 18+ event tonight, usually I can though and have done that before.
H finally called back recently to let D8 know that he can't babysit tonight. She told him that's ok (it's always ok with us even when it isn't). I told them not to let anyone in except me or dad (ha like he'd come over). So I'm sure they'll be fine. Karen
She told him that's ok (it's always ok with us even when it isn't).
What else are they supposed to say? Sounds like the aliens are out en force today. Sorry he wasn't there for you like he should have been, but the best thing to do is document it and do the best you can.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
@$#^(#%&!!! Your husband is a POS/PITA! Wants primary custody, but can't watch his own kids when they need him? And placing OW ahead of his own flesh and blood -- what a self-serving coward! I don't care if OW was threatening your H, if he had any grit to his character he'd have put her in her place.
D8 is going as a ladybug and S14 was going to pass out the candy at the house, b/c the rest of us will be gone! 
I said gbye to H and D8 as they left and told them to have fun. I'm not a very observant person, but H looked tired, older, and just gray tonight which I really don't remember having seen his face look gray like that. Maybe he's sick or something, but doesn't look like the happy camper I would have expected to see. Part of me is a little worried about him which I probably shouldn't, and part of me was a tiny bit happy about him looking like that which I also probably shouldn't. 
Karen