Snodderly, he took the baby photos with him when he moved out. Happy Halloween to you to and to all my DB friends!
So JA is at it again.
Today S7 had a halloween parade at his school. JA showed up which was fine, he didn't see S4 and I during the parade. Then after S7 went back to his classroom for his class party and S4 and I waited outside while he finished up his last half hour of school so I could pick him up.
JA saw us then and came over to S4. S4 was ignoring him at first and was clinging to me. So JA took it upon himself to make himself look like a jackas$. He started doing stupid things like trying to climb a tree, walk along a wooden wall, and sit on the top of a bench all in hopes that S4 would follow what he was doing and then he could play.
Finally S4 did start to play with him and then JA proceeded to make even more of an as$ of himself. He would throw himself on the ground acting like S4 knocked him out, etc. I was mortified for him. All the other parents were looking at him like he was mental or something. I think he is. He looked like someone who belonged on meds.
Then S7 came out and we started to walk to the car to go home and JA followed us as his car was near mine.
We got to JA's car first and he opened the door and told the boys to hop in.
I said to him "What are you doing? It's my weekend. They belong with me"
JA: I am taking them to the upstate house (he refuses to allow the boys to call our house their home).
Me: Um...no you are not. It's my weekend they go with me. Why are you even going to the house?
JA: So I can go trick or treating with them.
Me: It's my weekend not yours.
JA: So? You don't get to tell me what to do anymore!
Me: If it was your weekend you wouldn't allow me to go trick or treating with you guys.
JA: You don't know what I would do.
Me: Yes I do (this is the same guy who would not let me to to any of S7's boy scout events if it fell on his weekend)
JA: YOU ARE A BITCH! I HATE YOUR GUTS! (he said something else but I just pulled the kids along with me to leave).
As the boys and I were walking back to our car, I could tell S7 was about to cry because of what his father said to me.
I told him it would be ok, and Daddy should not of called me that. I also told him that I was sorry he had to hear such things and I explained to him that since it was my weekend we were going to go trick or treating together.
S7 said he wanted to go trick or treating with me. I told him that Daddy is not always nice to mommy (he's seen it himself) and I didn't want to fight with Daddy so it was better off if he didn't come. I think S7 agreed.
When we got back to the house JA was there. He stayed outside and I finished getting the boys ready for trick or treating. I did not know if he was planning on going with us or not.
The boys then went outside for awhile with their Dad.
I went out there to tell them it was time to go and JA said to the boys, "Hey, let's hide under this bush!" He proceeds to hide under a bush and tells the boys to come under with him. The boys didn't budge. He said "Come on!"
Then s4 said "We are not supposed to go under there." (There are cactus plants I have near it so I don't want the boys getting pricked)
JA: Said who?
S4: Mommy
JA: Don't listen to Mommy and her nonsense!
(Ugh! Again, he always says that to them)
I told the boys it was time to go trick or treating and then JA said "Ok guys, give me a hug goodbye! I gotta go before Mommy calls the cops on me for wanting to go trick or treating with you guys!
I ignored him.
What is he doing to these boys? It's sick! He's sick!
If he was a nice person to me I wouldn't mind letting him tag along but he is nothing but nasty to me and I don't need him tagging along just so he can treat me with such disrespect. I don't need it and neither do the boys.
While we were trick or treating he called my cell but I didn't answer.
He left a nasty tone VM saying "TELL THE BOYS TO CALL ME so they can tell me how much candy they got."
I hate that he put me on the spot in the first place with just showing up and thinking he can take the boys trick or treating. He never even asked me if it would be ok.
Secondly, like I said, if it was his weekend he wouldn't allow me to go trick or treating with them as he would want to take the ow instead.
Doesn't he get what divorce is? These are the consequences that go along with it.
He doesn't get to have the best of both worlds.
He wants me to give give give but he gives nothing in return.
I don't even feel threatened with the fact that he said he hates my guts. A year or so ago I would try and do everything so he wouldn't hate me and it got me no where so now I don't focus on it. If he wants to hate me so be it. But I think he hates himself more.
Also the boys and I came home during trick or treating to get a bite to eat. My Dad is up and S7 didn't want to go for another round so he stayed with him to hand out candy. I took S4 out again.
When I got back S7 ran up to me and said "Mommy I missed you so much!
He looked so sad I asked him what was wrong. He started to cry and said "I just want you, I just want you..." over and over again.
I think his feelings hurt for me by what JA said to me. He doesn't want JA to call me such names.
If JA wants to call me names, fine then. But doing it in front of the kids is not right. They don't need to hear such verbal abuse.
