TxMom--Hope the family time for Halloween was good. Take it one day at a time. Bg has some good advice. You weren't sure a week ago you wanted H there for Halloween, so don't make up your mind about Thanksgiving or Christmas until the time comes. You'll change your mind a hundred times and won't know if you made the right decision. Don't waste that energy.
Which is better for you, H comes to the house to be with the kids and OW shows up there or H takes kids to the apartment and OW is there? Two little kids, H, OW in 1 bedroom apartment over the weekend, that sounds like a comedy to me. There is a taste of life as a D'd person for him. I know you have to look out for the welfare of your girls first, but are they any less safe with him at the aparment than at your house? There is a difference between safe and comfortable. My kids can fall asleep in the weirdest places, so evaluate what is going to be the decision you can most live with? If you do D, where is H going to live? Are you going to let him have the house every other weekend if you are D'd? Set your boundaries and let H know what you are willing to accept. Will H respect you if you show him you respect his decision to live his own life in his one bedroom apt? If the health and safety for your girls isn't in question, then why should you be inconvenienced if this is the path H has chosen for his life?
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A man who compromises his principles never had them in the first place.
