My 29 year old wife going through MLC, this sucks

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Well everyone. I broke my rule of not snooping and now I regret it. As you see from my posts things have been baby stepping in the right direction.

I have not snooped once since she told me she was moving to the guest room. So today I checked her cell phone usage. When we last had our R talk she had gone over her minutes costing us alot of money. We talked about how that was not fair to me since I was paying all the bills. Also, she knows it bugs me since she is talking to EA/OM. She said that she was checking her minutes and wont go over. So when I checked today knowing her bills ends in the next couple day she had gone way over. Probably when the bill comes to the tune of $350 plus dollars.

So this bothers me for two reasons. 1. is that we cannot afford to have her wasting money. Before OM she never talked on her phone more that 450 minutes. Now she is at 1900. 2. This probably means she it talking to him more than ever. WHich is wierd since she is acting better lately. Who the hell knows.

So my question to you all is how do I handle this. An email is going to come in a week showing the amount due. Once it comes I can read what is says and maybe confront her. But she is going to have to tell me about it since the bill is going to be so high and it is my money. Or should I just wait and see how she handles it. I know she is going to ask me to change the plan to accomodate her and I dont really want to do that.

So what I think I am going to do when she asks is change the plan and then tell her as we discussed she is fully responsible with her own money to pay the bill period. What I need to avoid I think is a confrontation that will put the talk on OM. Crazy thing is that we have unlimited home phone service and I told her to use it and he can call here so that we can save money. Guess she didn't listen.

This just sucks because she had been nice this last week. Also, on the bright side is that she doesn't have alot of free alone time without the kids so at least she is on the phone with him. Not WITH him physically. Not yet anyways.

UUUUGGGGGGGGGGGGGhhhh.

Have a good night.