"I do not want him to be happy without me. i want him miserable."

Well max...I can guarantee he is/was miserable when he heard you had slept with the friend's husband. Wasn't that enough torture for him to go through for you to be happy about it?

I may sound like I am beating you up, but if you could hear yourself from outside yourself, you would see the logic in what I am saying.

DQ

P.S. Sorry it was only two times, I did misunderstand that.