STEPPING out...

[tpaschal]

Cagz,

Yep. It is hard. Some days are better than others. Some days it still seems like the bomb drop was yesterday, and I'm still in shock and disbelief.

Some days people ask me how I'm doing, and I can say, "Good," or "I'm okay." Other days the best I can manage is to say, "I'm still here." (As in, I'm still walking, talking, and breathing, but that's about it.)

It's crappy for all of us, but it does kind of help me to know I'm not the only one going through it. Thanks for sharing your feelings.

We went to mediation, I got a crap deal that I'm not happy with but which I felt pressured to take (by my lawyer and the mediator.) They kept telling me that it was better than what a judge would do. I'm not so sure about that. I felt rushed. I should have put my foot down and said I wanted to continue to another day (it was close to 6pm), but the mediator was worried that if my H had time to talk to the OW, he would change his mind about some stuff. I'm not so sure that would have been a bad thing, as now I'm pretty sure some things got left out that really should have been addressed. (Mostly kid issues, not money issues.)

I'm sorry that you are having to think about taking your H back to court. I'll probably be looking at that in a year or two, as well. My stbxH is a doctor, and he made $100,000.00 dollars LESS in 2007 than he did in the previous 3 to 4 years (and the loss all coming AFTER divorce papers were served.) So the mediator said if I can prove his income goes right back up after the D is final, I'll have good grounds to take him back to court in a year or two to ask for more child support.

Of course, will I even have the money then to hire a lawyer to do that? We'll have to see.

I know that God will provide for us, but all this change is hard to navigate.

Hope things are looking up for you soon.