Quoting sgctxok: How do you think you can translate the skills you are learning right now to the time when you are together, in person?
Excellent point, sg!!
One thing that I've found is that a lot of people are VERY uncomfortable when there is any silence in a conversation. They seem to have to fill up the "dead-air" by saying something. Even just ANYTHING!
Although there may be absolutely nothing wrong with this, if this is what you would "typically" do, it might be an area for change.
Some people take longer to form thoughts in their heads than others, trying to get the words "just right". Others may be looking for you to "bail them out", to have you speak first, so they don't have to.
Either way, this is definitely one area where you could experiment with, to see if you can change the normal rythym of things a bit. To do something that's "unexpected", just to see what happens.
If communicating through email is a way that seems to work best for you, slowing the conversation down a bit might be an effective tool when it's time for "live" conversation.
JJ
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