I did try to validate some over the phone but I have not responded to her texts. I told her that I understand how she feels and I do. On some level I would be ok with her going. but since I don't count on reconciling it might cause me some bad feelings. But mainly it's not really up to me unless I wanted to cross the wishes of my family. So far I have hinted but left my families wishes out of this. I don't want to further strain things between them.
In a way I feel like I'm being bribed. No condo then no affection. but if I let her use the condo then I get to cuddle once and a while.
I might have to tell her that after she moved out in July I was instructed that it was no longer appropriate for her to use the condo. I can offer to go with her but I already offered that and I don't think it's recieved well...more as a punishment than a compromise.
I do understand how she feels. I still feel that my only option is to remove the confusing affection. Though I feel this is a bakwards direction for us.
No one would have a problem if I were to go with her. And I don't think that she was being manipulative.
Last edited by HopefultotheEnd; 10/31/0807:26 PM.
Me:34 W:31 d's 5 & 10 M: 5 years, T: 8, Bomb1 3/8/08,#2:3/28/08 Asked 4 D:4/19/08, discovered PA 5/8/08,W moved out 6/30/08 W pregnant by OM: 2/17/08
