How do you feel about love being a choice, a decision, and not a feeling?
In what ways have you, and your partner, might have let your love dwindle, and not made your love for each other a priority?
How do you feel about Michele's staement of "If your spouse reports falling out of love, just say nothing and remind yourself that nothing is permanent. If s/he fell out of love, s/he can fall into love again"?
What do you think about NOT talking to him/her about your "feelings" of love for each other? About not putting any pressure on them to talk about it?
What do you think are some of the differences between "being in love" with a person, and "loving" a person?
I have to agree with this. The funny thing is that my husband has always been a Vulcan. Never let his emotions rule him. Always went with logic. I on the other hand had always been the emotional one in our relationship.
So, it's strange to me to try to explain to him that he needs to go with his mind on this one, not his heart.
Talk about role reversal.
When we first seperated and then began talking again, I made sure to not tell him I love you, at the end of our conversation, as was my habit.
When he finally said that he loved me, after several months of me DBing, I gasped and whispered, "Say it again." and he did.
Now, I notice that the times when he doesn't say it, he's having doubts that he's trying to deal with.
If he doesn't say it and I do, then he'll respond, but it's so much nicer when he says it first and means it.
I think loving a person is what we all are striving to do on this bb...unconditional love. Being in love, in my mind, is the euphoric feeling we get when things are going wonderfully!
