Most people on my end couldn't believe it either--still can't believe it. There are a small handful to whom it didn't come as a surprise--one of H's friends he'd been talking to for awhile, who now thinks it's just such a nice coincidence that he reconnected with an old friend who's making him happy--but he thinks this occurred well after the separation. And 2 of our long-term friends we don't see very often, both of whom believe that the A is irrelevant and the marriage was never very promising. Now why they never mentioned that before I don't know. And why they've now withdrawn and I haven't heard from them in months, I also don't know. Staying clear of the mess, I imagine.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012