I have been very accomodating to him, I let him pretty much do what ever he has wanted to do in regards to this whole separation,
Why did you make it easy for him? The WAS should earn their way out of the R, IMHO. Somehow, I think you feel because you were so accommodating, that he owes you. He has detached, and the only consideration he possibly owes is that you are still the mother of his children, and therefore needs to work on having a good working R on those ground.
It's sad when the LBS has not let go yet. I read on someone else's thread: "drop the rope before you get dragged". So true! He is "seeing someone else" ... probably has been for awhile, even before he left. This should be the signal to move on.
But, we all have our time to grieve, to let go, etc. No-one can be rushed, or held back. Just keep working at moving on, being your own unique self, GAL, and know that you are a wonderful mom, and your intentions were good as a W, I'm sure. Your H has chosen another path, one you can't follow, so you have to grow in other ways. No, he's not responsible for your feelings or happiness, but he is for your children's, and having a good R with their mom will certainly help them.
Sorry for the long ramble --- hope I don't come across as too harsh. Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
