MAYBE some of the ways that he feels loved haven't changed, just possibly some of the circumstances that you're facing have?
I'm not quite sure where to go with this, but it really drew my attention when you said......
But over the years as I grew resentful of his "privacey"....I withdrew my emotional and eventually my physical attachment to him...until we'd become virtual strangers in our own home.
Your resentments over what he was doing, his privacy, lead to you withdrawing, which lead to the two of you becoming strangers.
As I said, I have no specific thoughts right now, just that this might be something to take a closer look at as we work through these steps.
Maybe working backwards, and regaining the emotional and physical intimacy, which might make him less private, which could lead to you being less resentful? Or any of these things in no specific order?
ANYTHING to make a change in the what's happening. Keep an open mind, and we'll see what kind of solutions we can dig up!!
JJ
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