Just think about the fact that the biggest issue you have at the moment is where you live. This was a massive point of contention for my H and me too, but I would live anywhere on the planet now, in a heartbeat, if I were given the opportunity that you have. This doesn't mean that I think you should be a doormat and do whatever he says to do, but the fact that the city is only an hour away makes me think that you could make it tolerable if you needed to, even if he did get sent away...Plus, it sounds like there is still a very good chance that you won't move there at all.
Focus on the ILY, the future talk, the ML, and all of the other nice things that you have at the moment. It sounds like your H is also having some realizations of his own, so even with all of his talk about where he wants to live, he may back down if he sees how much it upsets you...
I think you are doing brilliantly, and I'm so glad that things are working out, and that your H is learning about how to be more considerate too. Soon enough you'll be in the position where things are more equal between the 2 of you. It's just a process that takes a lot of work, but from here on out at least you know you are both headed in the same direction :).
Enjoy your weekend!
ITH
Last edited by istherehope; 10/31/0805:17 PM.
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
