New Me - Will WAW ever notice?

[Kakatal]

Nothing to report but positive interactions & some curious behavior by my w.

Wed night - had great IC session - C feels I am making great strides in therapy; feeling really good about how life is going for me right now. w brings kids over for 1.5 hr visit. Wasn't expecting her to stay but she did. Played card games with S4 & D2. Then I let kids pig pile on me. W takes opportunity to get a washcloth & starts wiping down tables in living room. She's cleaning the house?!? Just said thanks for doing that while playing.

W asks if I want her to just bring kids by Thur night at bedtime or what was my expectation. Just said she could do as she pleased - stay all day at house or whatever she wanted - her choice. I just wanted to see kids when I got home - expected at 9pm. W informs me that her Orientation for her new job at Victoria Secret is next Thurs. She says she knows that isn't going to help make her car payment. I tell her that hopefully she will do well with the garage sale to help make money she needs. She expresses doubt she will make that much money.

Thur - Forget to tell D9 mother I can't bring her to school. Up at 4am, drive to airport, send D9 mom txt about school. Have txt in my inbox from w at 11:30pm previous night "Have a safe flight/trip" Didn't reply. Able to catch early flight home. Stop by store to buy dinner & a pumpkin to carve with kids. Home at 6pm - didn't call ahead. W at house with kids. Offer w some chicken. Eat together - kids were eating ice cream. Little chit chat about kids. W complaining about stomach issues due to taking aspirin every night to sleep - having back & head aches. W wanted to leave to catch up on sleep. Had kids pick out a design for pumpkin. Kewl bat! Roasted the seeds - had nice time the 3 of us. W calls 1 hr after leaving to see if we are all ok ?!?!? She is the one who left sick. Tell her hope she is feeling better & see her in the am.

Fri - w calls saying on the way 3 minutes away. Dogsitting for friend & their great dane took off down the street when she opened the door. I laughed & asked how in the world she was able to get the dog back in the house. She said she had to drive her car down the road & then the dog would follow her back to the house. House has a doggie door but this one won't use it.

W comes in & shares story from cousin's house about carving their pumpkin & the entire carving broke off & had to piece it back together with skewers. D9 showed up to bring her to school. Showed D9 our bat pumpkin - w tagged along to see. W adds that if you put vaseline on edges pumpkin will last longer. Tell her thanks for the info & I will have to do that. As I walk past her to leave rubbed my hand on her shoulder & said cya tonight while smiling.

W then asks if I can get $20 in ones for her for tomorrow's garage sale & she will give me back the money later. Tell her no problem. I ask if there is anything else I can do. She asks if I was still planning on going the Air Show at 10am. Tell her it is at local airport & show starts at 9. She says she just doesn't want to be alone doing the garage sale [2 days ago she said she had no problem doing it alone] Tell her I'm glad to help her out while we are here.

All in all each exchange is very positive from me. Making eye contact, validating when I can, staying upbeat, smiling. Feeling so much better about myself that it is making the DBing efforts feel more natural.

Letting her struggle with what she is doing, thinking, feeling. No rescuing. No expectations. Just being myself & really being happy.