How SURE are you about things that are going to happen?
I seem to have a "gut feeling" that is very strong that things are going to happen, this is not how it actually works out in real life however I have been able to convince myself of a lot of things through using the "gut feeling".
How much do you rely on the past, and the present, to predict the future? Especially about the "negative" things?
A lot, to be honest, I seem to still be judging reactions and actions on the past, my expectations of people are built on the past....
How would you see the situation you're in from an outsider's point of view? What if you were a third-party looking at the events that are going on in your life? How might you see things differently?
It would be great because I would be in someone else's shoes so that I wouldnt be going through this crap! Seriously I would advise to maybe hang in there a little longer, it may well change for the better.
If there was no past history to taint your views of the possibilities of things that could happen in the future, what might things look like?
Very different, I have been in the sitch with my W before and I am basing a lot on what has happened before.
If you were to put aside the "fact" that everything your partner is doing is meant to hurt you, what other possible explanations for some of their individual behaviors might you be able to come up with?
She is depressed, confused, overworked, running , hiding from reality & commitment - a common trait in her life?
Will answer the rest soon.... I really need to think a bit more deeply about this.
