1. Conflict and anger are signs that your relationship is failing.
True, or false? How do you think your partner would answer?
For me, the answer is yes. Conflict is a bad sign. For my Monkey, conflict is just a chance to show off his wonderful debating skills.
I think the true answer is that conflict is a chance to understand each other better, if handled correctly.
Quoting JJ: How have you and your partner dealt with conflict and anger in the past? What is the "typical" thing for both of you to do?
Typically, we'd take turns not listening to each other, but forming our arguements while pretending to listen to the other speak. This typically became a shouting match in which I'd storm off to my room crying, with my Monkey following me. We'd yell some more, I'd cry and hide from him, in my journal or a book, he'd hide from me in his computer games. At one point, one or the other of us would approach the other and apologize.
Quoting JJ:What do both of you do to either avoid conflict, or to instigate it? When are the times that you've been able to deal with anger and conflict successfully? When has it worked for them, and when has it worked for you? What were you both doing at the time?
We both tend to hide from the other in doing various activities to avoid conflict. With us being separated, it's even easier to avoid conflict. We just don't call each other.
One thing I've done in the past and that he just recently did was to email the other person about the conflict. That allows the person writing the email to find a way to phrase the issue...and it allows the person reading the email to truly hear what the issue is. Feelings still get hurt, but there's no yelling involved.
We just don't call each other. 
