Quoting tehach: Avoidance of conflict is so much easier than grasping the issue squarely. Generally though it seems to me that it can build resentment and make the issues larger than they started.
Yes, it sure seems to be easier at times to just avoid the conflict, doesn't it? But yes, you're right that doing this CAN make the resentments and anger grow.
Maybe it's not always so much IF we have conflicts, but HOW we have conflicts. What kinds of boundaries we have for "attack" and "defense". Just what our "fight rules" are, so that the other person can feel safe, and still be able to voice there opinions.
What kind of rules do any of us have set up that seem to work? What have you seen from any couples you know that can successfully deal with conflict? How does your style differ, and what can you learn from them?
JJ
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