Help, it seems my 35 year old wife is in MLC #12

[Dawn of Hope]

Imageer,
This is very interesting. You having a MLC W and having parents who have been dealing with MLC. Hey, maybe your mother is on this board somewhere! Do you have siblings?

I was under the impression that he was having a PA but it doesn't seem that way. It sounds like it is a EA. In his words "She takes care of me" However, they do live together.

They live together but it's not a PA? Riiiiiiiight. Well, of course you know your father better than I, but just based on the above, I don't believe it.

The most interesting thing that my father said to me was that he feels that he can't go back to my mother because she never pursued him. He says, "She never has asked me to come back. She never said she loved me, so I just stay away" It sounds to me that he wanted to go home at one point but wanted my mother to make the first move.

I have never understood why MLCers think this way (well, I don't understand a lot of things about MLC thinking). They seem to think that they can walk away from the S, but if they become interested in returning, it's up to the LBS to extend the bridge. It's like, "Hey, *you* were the one who put a halt to that aspect of our R. And now you want *me* to stick my neck out and try to get it started again? Knowing that if you're not ready to resume it, my attempts will just push you farther away? No THANK you!"

I told him that it works both ways and that he could have told her that he wanted to come home too.

That is more diplomatic than I could be. Sounds like you said just the right thing (although who knows if it will get through).

I'll bet it's kind of surreal, talking to your parents about their dysfunctional M and As and MLCs. Jeesh.

Hope you are doing well today, Imageer.

Peace,
Dawn