2008 = Crazy Year (Fiery 15)

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Well, didn't take long at all.

W wanted to talk about a hockey tournament out of town next weekend for S13 and it escalated.

Got it all...

- controlling for 18 years

- didn't I learn about passive-aggressive at counselling. (I slipped here and said that yes, I actually learned that I have been controlled for many years - she didn't like that).

- w wants D and I will do nothing to meet her half way

- going for court order to get me booted from this house

- why don't I go stay at my mothers

- K's don't want to live like this (I agreed with her there)

- doesn't have income so I should move (I did say she should get a job and her reply was ok, after the settlement)

- I couldn't even go to C with K's (W said she told me date and time which was bs - I heard from my L less than 16 hours before it was to happen and it was with W's counsellor which my IC said was not good in itself unless I was there from the start).

- I only hear what I want to hear but don't hear it all


I tried to remain calm. I did use the "d is not my choice - it is yours" a few times and of course it was thrown back at me.

W said that me sleeping in room was controlling. When asked why, she said because I cannot. I then said well, that is your choice. I choose to sleep in my bed. She then pulled the "well, now D11 doesn't have a bed" to which I responded "well, you made the choice to leave the room". Again, control accusation.

Funny thing - when it is not her way it is controlling by me...

She was livid with my letters from the L. That was evident tonight.

I didn't control myself as best I could. I did, however, stop her once with a "if you are going to continue with rude comments we will stop right now" to which she got all defensive.

I asked why she thinks I should move when she wants out. More kid things used as reasons (definite pattern here - k's becoming pawns in her game). Hey Puppy, guess I nailed that one.

In the end, she got frustrated and left the room "before she lost control" as she put it.

She was angry! And, although I do not want to try to read into it too much, she appears desperate.

She even came up with an I can stay in the house with the k's for a week and then she will. After, it became she will stay here during week and I can on weekends. F that!

I could have lost it many times, but did not.

She actually mentioned that this house would need to be sold. That was a first.

As we were chatting, I was looking in her eyes and realized I do not know who the F this woman is anymore. I could, for the first time, realistically see us being apart... and was not too discouraged. Is that detachment or partially admitting defeat? I don't know.

All I do know is I am not moving. My rationale remains:
a) She wants out
b) She is living the single married life
c) She went outside the M

Therefore, a+b+c= her leaving.

The fun continues...