chicki's 7th thread -latest drama

[Livin4ME]

Chicki,
It is very freeing once we have forgiven. I definitely have some things to work on because they're still 'fresh', but I've forgiven him for the earlier stuff in our M. My problem before tho, was that I forgot as well.
My STBX was the same. OW is his sugar momma. She works at a dentist office and was getting his teeth worked on for free. Giving him the Invisaline stuff and all this other stuff. She's bought him hundreds of dollars worth of clothes that he's only allowed to wear when he's with her. Paying his bills that he can't afford. Paying for their night outs. It will get old tho. As of right now, with our amount of debt, plus the child support he will be paying, he'll be over $500 in the hole every month. And she'll pay for it for a while. But it's gonna get old. Then what are they going to have!? Definitely not love. And love doesn't pay the bills.
We definitely had money issues, but I also haven't worked since having our daughter, at his urging. I'm about to finish my schooling and be able to get a job with the certificate I'm getting. But that's still not going to affect the child support because I haven't worked in 1.5 years. We both were spontaneous spenders. Didn't think about what we were buying at the time. I've since worked on it and am getting it under control.
Thanks Sir, I've been contemplating changing it...just gotta come up with a good one!
People have asked me before...if you could go back, would you do it again or no? I'm torn. On one hand, I wouldn't wish it on anyone. But on the other, the lessons I've learned have changed my life so much. And I wouldn't have my 2 beautiful children with me now.