What is working for me right now along these lines is having NO expectations...negative ones OR positive ones!
In the past, when things have seemed to be getting better with me and my H, I have fallen into the "trap" of expecting things to progress along certain lines, based on the way things have been going. Wrong! So many steps backward, so many twists and turns later, I can see that having expectations of ANY kind can really derail your PMA, and in turn your efforts toward improving your relationship.
