Help, it seems my 35 year old wife is in MLC #12

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My father was over for dinner tonight. My mother and father have be separated for about 5 years now. It is/was MLC related.

I have known for years that he was having an A with a waitress from a local restaurant. I know her. She is about 20 years younger than my father and not what I would call attractive. for the first time, I had a conversation with my father about this tonight. I did my best to listen and not be judgmental. My father did say some interesting things though.

I was under the impression that he was having a PA but it doesn't seem that way. It sounds like it is a EA. In his words "She takes care of me" However, they do live together.

He feels guilty for what he has done. My mother has not moved on to another R and doesn't really intend to. However, she is constantly struggling for money. He feels guilty for this.

My father also said "When I left, I was having a MLC" Personally, I think he isn't finished it yet.

The most interesting thing that my father said to me was that he feels that he can't go back to my mother because she never pursued him. He says, "She never has asked me to come back. She never said she loved me, so I just stay away" It sounds to me that he wanted to go home at one point but wanted my mother to make the first move. I told him that it works both ways and that he could have told her that he wanted to come home too.

In reality, I don't think my mother would take him back. They are not very good at marriage but the bigger issue is that my father is a pretty heavy drink and a miserable drunk. They have had some pretty bad arguments in the past (never physical) and he has said some terrible things to their friends in the past. I don't think she wants to go back to that.

This conversation was brought on by my mother talking to him about filing for D. Her motive is to protect her finances. He thinks she has a boyfriend.