Had a really nice evening with W and D6 at her new house (she is renting). W had called to ask if I had an outfit for school tomorrow and I came over w/ clothes.
W offered me mac and cheese, a recipe from a collegue at work. You know, she almost never cooked during our 7 yrs. of marriage. It was, well, it was ok. But I told her it was good.
She was showing me the knife set and glasses she got at Tuesday morning and the Iphone she got as an early Christmas present from her M. For some reason, she wants to share with me these simple things. I said nice things about all her purchases.
She looked really nice and I complimented her.
I was just waiting for the bottom to fall out but it never did.
There was only one dicey moment when she complained that D6 acted up when I was there, as if she could get away with things she couldn't when with W by herself.
I didn't respond defensively, but instead made sure D6 knew that just because I was there did not mean she could ignore mommy's words.
This had been an issue in the past. W tends to be very irritable and get upset with D easily. Most interaction w/ M seems to be being scolded. It has more to do w/W's irritability than D's disobedience most of the time.
But this issue was smoothed over and the hour I spent there was almost delightful. W smiled at me a few times. We even played a favorite game of tug of war using D as the rope on the couch. Like old times......
So out of character.......!!!
I don't know if this has anything to do with the fact that I will be paying most of this month's rent for her.
Should I help her out financially? I don't know, but as there was a misunderstanding (one that she could have avoided), I do want to help her. But I can't do this indefinitely.
Anyway, it was nice. Doubt it will last.....
Last edited by native; 10/31/0801:48 AM.
Me 47, W 32,D 6, Met 11 yrs. ago, M 7 Bomb 4/08/08, Sep. 8/10/08, Div. 8/10/09
