Hi ROOT- Hmmm...money is always a touchy subject. I am not sure I have any advice for you but I can relate.
My mother and her H handle their finances the same way you and your H do...They have been married for almost 30 years and have no children together. My step-father has a lot more money than my mother and wants to make sure that none (and I mean NONE) of his money goes to her children. My mother owns the house they live in so he pays her rent, he pays the bills and he gives her an allowance for household expenses. My mother has had many issues with her H over the arrangement, occassionally to the point she wants a D...but then they somehow work it out. I know at times it made her feel like she had no value to her H...or that his money was more important.
When my H and I were together, we each had individual accounts and we had a joint account. My H would give me money to put in the joint account every month to pay the bills but since the bomb, he has let me know that he resented giving me his money. I do have more in the bank than my H does but H makes a good living. My H has a tendancy (especially since the bomb) to waste money where I have always been much more practical and frugal...so we didn't see eye-to-eye. Not sure how we will work things if he moves back with me.
Do you think your H would go for C to discuss some of these issues so you could set some guidelines that seem fair to both of you?
