Thanks for the feedback on my earlier post, I'm now going to try to answer these questions which you've put here for us to ponder...
Quote: How SURE are you about things that are going to happen?
Haven't got the slightest clue but... Praying for God to direct things as they shoud go, but as well as I knew my husband this alien stranger is totally out of charcter & every day there are soo many changes happening that I can't keep up with them all... I pray, I watch, I pray some more because I don't have a clue as to what's going to happen next!
Quote: How much do you rely on the past, and the present, to predict the future? Especially about the "negative" things?
I think that basically somewhere inside the alien is my sweet kinda cute guy & that althou he's actting crazy now he will return... in the meantime I'm looking more at the past to see where corrections can be made in my behavior to change his in the present & future... we do have some communication problems which need to be worked on... one of my cheeseless tunnels was to Rant & Rave, or do the Broken Record... now I'm using picture emails, keeping requests shorter & thanking him when he's done them I'm making a real effort to be calm when I am upset... even when I had to make several calls to make my point July 3rd I was calm when I demanded that he put some money into the account... it worked I got almost all that I asked for
I am making more note of what does work now & am using those results to figure out how I should proceed
Quote: How would you see the situation you're in from an outsider's point of view? What if you were a third-party looking at the events that are going on in your life? How might you see things differently?
I answered this in an earlier post... I feel beat up on by those who don't have a clue as to what I'm trying to do... Family & Friends alike are all upset with me for putting up with this BS, even my MIL! There are several men who are just waiting for the day that I'm tired & give up... No one seems to understand... "Til Death Do Us Part... etc" means just that to me! I will NOT Divorce Hubby even thou I've got scriptural grounds to do so... I told the lawyer that I consulted with that as nice as he was & helpful with information I hope that I never see him again, because if I do that means that Hubby's filed for D
Quote: If you were to read your story on the board like it was someone else's thread, what would you post to yourself? What advice would you give to you? How well would you take that advice?!
I'm not sure - right now I'm NOT Detached enough to be able to look at it from the outside - but that might be the advice which I give to myself to work on detaching from the problems & get a life, but since Hubby does have abandonment issues figure a way to reassure him that I'm here for him when he needs to feel safe or is ready to come home... I'm trying to take my advice but it's a bit difficult right now, I've started taking the celexa Rx to help calm the anxiety that I've been feeling this past mth & 1/2 I do think that once it kicks in & I'm not so anxious I'll be better able to follow the advice...
Note to Others - I Use to Really Have a Problem & Downed Myself for Needing the Rx, but Really if Your Dr Suggests Taking an Rx... DON"T FEEL BAD! No it's Not a Miracle & Won't Keep You From getting a Bit Down... BUT IT DOES HELP - Especially when you get that truely can't face the world depression which will overwhelm from time to time
Once you get past the Initial Shock Stage you will find that you can deal with life without it then if you feel things about to get out of control with your emotions you can always get back on it until you get over that hump
Quote: If there was no past history to taint your views of the possibilities of things that could happen in the future, what might things look like?
I'm not sure yet, I'll have to answer that in a later post while I think about it - there's alot of past right now & even the new MLC crap which seems to pop up every day is a bit overwhelming at the moment, All the Bad - Past & Present is Too in my Face
In fact I'm going to end this post & think a bit more on the rest of the questions & come back later to answer the rest of the questions...
Thank you for this Forum & Outlet it's soo hard when everyone around is saying leave "you're too good for this BS - you look good go get another man"
