All that you can't leave behind... (43)

[Kalni]

You want the truth?

[Gypsy]

Hey Ms. K..

The truth is always better than what you think people want to hear.

I applaud you for trying and being fair and honest in your approach toward your spouse and relationship. And being honest with yourself.

Walls are built bit by bit by hurt and reinforced by anger. A foundation for a relationship, marriage evolve from trust to love. The trust allows love and security to develop. With each positive action you two take a little bit of the wall erodes. Being honest about how you feel frees you (and him) from guessing.

You're right to take it slow.

You are wonderful.

*hugs*

[mishka422]

Always truth K, no matter what.

[BobbiJo]

Good afternoon, thanks for the coffee.

So did you not find the details of H's job stimulating and exciting???




I DO notice you call him "he" now instead of "STBX"........

[AliSuddenly]

Yes we want the truth! And as you FB Stars Officer, I have to warn you that Neptune turns forwards on Saturday (and is already stopping still).. and thats about 'veils being lifted' and the end of delusions, illusions, lies and deceptions. So yes, the truth please, Neptune demands it!

Hope you are ok. I have a cold.. bleugh. Is it rainy and windy and cold where you are ? (ha)
Ali xxx

[MichelleLT]

((((((Kalni)))))))

Glad he sent you that TM. Funny how you were thinking you can't do this anymore and he made contact.

He does seem to be trying.

[RefuseToLose]

Maria,

Hang in there and take things one day at a time. He does seem to be trying and it will probably be a while before he really "gets it." In fact, all of us males will forever suffer from DAM disease because it is just part of who we are. That doesn't mean we're not growing and changing, but just that men don't seem to be naturally able to "get it" as easily as you ladies do.

So, keep on your toes, but do continue to notice the "baby steps" he is taking. He'll be making small strides for a long, long time yet. There is no way he's ready to sprint w/ you right now. For the time being, let him crawl around and pretty soon he'll be propping himself up on the furniture and trying to find his balance to take those first important steps.

It is a big process. Protect yourself in the meantime, but don't be so guarded that you miss the progress he's making.

With you as always.
Rob

[Kalni]

Thanks Rob, I am doing as you suggest. Only I will soon get frustrated if he doesnt do somekind of a big nice gesture. I believe, when you want your "wife" back after you f@ck up, you have to do something romantic and unexpected, just to get her "in the mood". I know, too romantic? Still, that is what I want. So, do I settle...?
On the other hand, I still havent told him I want to try so he maybe hesitating.

The truth was that I was not interested at all in his work. In fact, since I partly blame his work for us getting here, I hate his job, couldnt care less...

So, time goes by and I am eating like crazy. Probably gained 5 kilos the last 7 days...
K

[One Day]

((((Sunshine)))))

Bad news about H's work since you may be hearing a lot more about it from no on. Hope you're having a good evening. I was pleased he texted you to say he got your e-mail. He's making some effort- a good sign.

Sara- that was a beautiful post.

L. xx

[transformer]

Kalni,

if I was your H and I wasn't making a grand romantic gesture it would probably be because I was friggin scared sh!tless of it being rejected. I mean... you didn't want a watch... why would you embrace something more risky?

It sounds like you want very specific signs of reassurance, but didn't he tell you he came back for YOU already? I thought that's what he already said.

SARA, your post made me cry. Amazing.

(((K)))
love,
T