JJ~
You are AWESOME to respond to each of us with such positive advice. Thanks for starting this discussion--I think we will all learn alot!!!!

I want to point out a theme I am seeing from many of these posts. We have all (in different ways) learned how to "care for" a M now. I know that I have learned so much about what I could have done differently to nuture my R with my H and I am ready for a chance to prove that! I know it will take time and I need to have patience! I am glad to have so many people to share this journey!!!

Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)