I, for one, really admire your patience! It can be really tough for other people on the outside of the situation to understand. I know that before everything hit in my situation, my opinion on what I would and wouldn't do, and put up with, was quite a bit different than it is now!!
I think that your thoughts of your H being confused might be closer to the truth than the "not caring" possibility. At least for now, that line of thinking will give you more possible solutions to work with.
Keep in mind that as you're working through your program, his confusion isn't going to go away overnight. In fact, as you're making your changes, he may become even MORE confused, but in a different, and better way. You will be blowing away his images of the person he left, and replacing them with images of the person he might just want to stay with. This will be good!
He won't be certain that these changes are permanent until he sees them consistently over a period of time. So, what you need to do is to concentrate on keeping these changes going, and to keep his curiousity peaked about just what's come over this girl!!
Be confident that he will notice, even though he doesn't see you much. It's surprising how much they can find out about, how much they notice, even when you're apart. And, if all goes according to plan, you'll have more chances to show yourself to him more often in the near future, right?!
JJ
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