Step Number 1 - Start with a Beginner's Mind

[Jamesjohn]

My mom often says, "The best predictor of the future is the past."

You know, pnt, your mom isn't totally off base here.

Often, by looking at things from an outsider's point of view, we can see patterns of behavior between couples. First he does this, next she'll do that, then he responds by doing this thing, etc. etc., on and on.

There are many parts of our lives, and what we do in our relationships, that are VERY predictable, and where the outcomes will be fairly certain. So, looking at it this way, she is very correct.

"If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got"

This is where the power of DB, the power of change, really comes into play.

If we can "start with a beginner's mind", look at things the way they could be, instead of the way we perceive them to be, we can begin to see some different solutions. We can get a clearer view of what WE may be doing that is contributing to these predictions being fulfilled, and change OUR dance steps from there.

I think that this is why clearing our minds of "what we KNOW" is the first step. A step that should not be skipped. Until we can do this, we can easily fall prey to repeating our patterns of behavior, which makes it tough to get the needed changes to start rolling. AND, to KEEP them going.