Quote: How would you see the situation you're in from an outsider's point of view?
I would say that it looks like I am being overly patient and my H is being a jerk by running away from his problems. Most of friends say they can't believe that I am so "patient" and that he needs to start working on the M. I tend to agree, but then again, I am a little biased...or am I?!
Quote: If you were to put aside the "fact" that everything your partner is doing is meant to hurt you, what other possible explanations for some of their individual behaviors might you be able to come up with?
I often question my H's motivation for acting like he does. he is hot and cold. I tell myself he is confused. I guess maybe I could be more objective and say he doesn't care anymore, but that hurts too much!
Quote: If you were to start things over from scratch, with a clean slate, what would your relationship be like?
I would love to start with a clean salte, in fact I have told H that. he doesn't seem to want to do that. he says he can't get emotionally involved. That a big sticking point with him. I have made so many chanegs over the past few months and I have learned so much about myself and how to make a M work. How can he see these changes if he never sees me? I think he has noticed some changes in our brief encounters but how does he know they are permanent?
I am frustrated and would love some guidance!!!
Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)
