One area in which I had to "take off my blinders" was in dealing with my wife's depression problems. I got so wrapped up in the "diagnosis", that I had a tendency to lay this to blame for all of our problems. I was SURE that once we "fixed" this problem, all of our other problems would simply just go away.

I found that I focused so much of my attention around this, that I wasn't able to take a good look at other possible solutions to what was going on. In fact, putting all my attention on this just made matters worse for her. And us.

It took a counselor I was seeing quite a few whacks upside my head with a 2x4 to make me see things differently! Once I took the focus off of my wife's depression, and put the focus back on taking care of myself, and some other areas that I could do something about, a shift began to take place. I began to feel better, my wife began to feel better, and her episodes of her gray times became less severe, and less frequent.

Life is much better now, but I do still have stop myself at times, and remind myself to not be so "sure" about what I "know"! To take a step back to look at things from a different point of view, and be able to see different possibilities.

JJ

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