"here's my thought...even though I haven't...I was going to suggest saying I won 4 tickets to local comedy club and invite some friends we used to be really close to, that way he won't feel so uncomfortable...this would break the ice a little...just say when you (H) are comfortable, I have these tickets to use. Thought it might be fun for the 4 of us to go and hang out. Thoughts????"
Christa.. I gotta say.. you are impressing the heck out of me. Why are you holding back on stuff like this? That is a solid idea. He may choose to go.. or not to go. The idea that I laid out.. you have intact in your mind. How hard would it be to find 1 more if he decides not to go.. or even if you just went with the friends? Bravo my friend Bravo.
"The C brought up that him not trying, is him trying."
She is saying the same thing I am. Just in the fact he is showing up.. the door is open.. just a crack.
The C is a step.. that is it.. hopefully she will be able to steer both of you some. The C will not "fix" this situation. Or the C is not the solution you think it is.
"I truly understand that it may be a little soon to date in his eyes...but he's not listening yet...so i am just a little flustered...ok i am venting now! HELP!!!!"
Look at it from his point of view.. he has been hurt before.. chances are he is gonna get hurt again. Find a way to make yourself OK with him just showing up.. things will start to move one direction or another.. that is the time we look at it again.. Now all we look for is for him to show up.. and be happy about just that. You could be sitting in the L office right now. Which do you prefer?
There's some people here watching you...
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
